The post I did on the Dove body wash the other day, really got me thinking about body image and self esteem. I stated that one of the reasons I like to use Dove products, is their social mission and commitment to building positive self esteem in all women and young girls.
Then I read Katie's post, a rebuttle to a recent controversy involving Kate Upton, who was being publicly bashed for being "too fat." I'm sorry, but when did this define "fat?"
It was appalling what hundreds of women were saying about her body. To be publicly ridiculed, called horrible names and be completely degraded like that was just mean. Why the judgement? Why is beauty restricted to being a size 0?
You know, everywhere in society, no matter if it's fashion, decor, etc. there is this desire to put down in order to lift yourself up. I found that article (cuz I'm crazy like that!) and it was truly ugly. The only point I took from it was something that I've done myself, and that is to think/say something negative about a really skinny person, and I've probably even jokingly said things like "go eat a burger" or something similar. I never saw that as anything but playful, but I can see how it could be just as hurtful as the high school ridicule I suffered. Do I think it's on the same plane? No. But hurt is hurt.
That being said, this was the ONLY positive thing I took from that article. Everything else that was said was ugly and just plain mean. The article has since received a lot of internet media attention, and in the articles comments, the author and subsequently the readers were upset at how they were incorrectly portrayed and judged. Um, hello?? Pot, meet kettle. You're both black.
I have a friend who has daughter, a young girl about 14 years old, whose favorite outfit is a super tight black mini-skirt that hugs her bum and extends just a couple of inches past it, topping the outfit off with four or five inch heels. I may sound like a complete prude, but I was shocked that a young girl would feel the need to show off her body like that. Somehow these young people have learned that this is what beauty is. Some say it's freedom of expression. But is it?
1 Peter 3:3-4
People tell me every day how beautiful my children are. It's true, they're adorable! But they are so much more than that. They are witty, sassy, sweet, thoughtful, compassionate, intelligent and so many more things, and I tell them that every day. They need to that they are loved and adored for who they are inside, as much as they need to be complimented on their big brown eyes and gorgeous curly hair.
A final thought - I was trying to choose an outfit for a date a while back and was trying on some dresses with a friend to get her opinion. One of them was quite short, and had apparently shrunk in length. I nevertheless put it on.
Now, this is a friend who I envy. For her beauty, her body, her style...the list goes on. I looked at myself in that dress and thought I saw the fat girl in a really short dress. She commented to me that at least my legs had muscle tone, whereas hers had none. This woman who I envied for her body, had body issues too. Just kind of put things into perspective for me.
We all have our battles, whether it be self esteem, body image, addiction or any other in a myriad of life trials. But the key is to remember that as much as you are struggling with something, so is that person next to you. Let's start building each other up instead of tearing each other down.
Stepping down from my soapbox now...
What's your definition of beautiful?
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