Not exactly a "life" crossroads, but a design crossroads.
You see, the whole reason for starting this blog was to help me to discern what my style truly is. That was my goal anyway.
Along the way, I have met amazing people, seen some gorgeous homes, and in essence become more confused about what I really "love."
I have definitely learned more about my style, as I shared in this post, but pulling it all together? Well that's where I seem to have hit a brick wall.
Case in point - my living room. I'm almost there. But there's just a few things that are throwing me off and I can't quite figure out what it is.
I was sharing this with Kristen, who sent me a link to Fieldstone Hill's recent series on Overcoming Decorating Paralysis.
It was perfect timing!
So far, I've learned that my biggest obstacle is that I'm afraid to commit; I'm afraid of CHANGE. I also learned that I have the tendency to OVERDOSE on change. Almost seems like one would cancel out the other, right?
I was kind of surprised at the realization that I'm afraid of change, because I love to change things up, only I guess sometimes I do it a little too much. The mantel, the centerpiece, the blog...but the big stuff? Uh-uh. No way.
For example, it took me four years to finally paint my fireplace and my grandmother's hutch. I mean, literally, I have been talking about it for FOUR YEARS. But now, I can't imagine it looking the old way again, and I LOVE IT!!
So, I wait and I wait and I wait to do certain things because I'm afraid I won't like it. I like to change up the little things, but I'm never fully satisfied, hence the OVERDOSING on change.
According to Darlene, one of the first things to do is come up with a list of words that describe what you want your home to be. The key is to not let yourself be pigeon-holed into calling your style "coastal," or "modern," or "cottage." You are looking for adjectives.
Here's my descriptives for my home:
So I see a piece, I think I love it, and I ask myself: Is it...Functional? Comfortable? Personal? If I can answer yes, I move on to the next step.
The "Don't Buy" words. This was a break through for me. My "don't buy" words?
Is it trendy? If it's something I'm currently seeing all over blogland and the latest Pottery Barn catalog, it may be the power of suggestion that's actually leading me to the purchase rather than my "love" of all things chevron.
These are just a few thoughts on this process I've used to discern what I love.There is so much more to the series and I'm anxious to finish it. There's a lot more work to do, and I'll be sharing a little more as I work my way through it. Next up is how I'm going to decorate for this "season" in my life.
I'm anxious to hear your thoughts - how do you know what it is that you truly love? Are you still trying to figure it out? What are some of your WORDS?
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