A Journey of Faith, Part Two – My Adoption Story continued

This is Part Two of A Journey of Faith: My Adoption Story. For Part One, click here.

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I was perfectly content being a mother of one. After all, that was my life for nearly three and a half years. One evening in February 2011, that all changed.

My phone rang, and I looked at the caller ID. It said “Unavailable.” It had been more than two years since I’d seen that on my phone, and immediately my heart dropped.

My three and a half year old son, who I had adopted at nine weeks old, had a sibling. It was the call I knew would likely come someday, but I was no where near prepared for it.

A Social Worker informed me that indeed, my son had a full biological sibling; a sister, who was nearly two and a half years old. I had a decision to make, and I literally had a few days to make it. (The details as to why I was just getting this call are part of Riley’s story, and not something I will be sharing.)

How do you make a decision to accept another child in your home, your life, your heart, in just a matter of days?

It was the hardest decision I’ve ever had to make, and in some ways, the easiest. It was a chance to give my son a biological connection to someone who could forever be in his life, and it would be the same for Riley. I prayed about it, I talked with the important people in my life, and ultimately, I felt it in my heart that it was the right thing to do. It was the best thing for my children. I also felt, however, that it would completely turn my life upside down, and it did.

Imagine going to the doctor one day for a routine check up and having her say, “Hey guess what? You’re 39 weeks pregnant! You better get prepared because next week, you’re going to have a new baby in your house!” I had a week to figure out how we were going to fit another child in our home, how I was going to financially provide for the addition, find childcare…oh, and bond with her at the same time.

It hasn’t been easy. I have two children who have been through so much more in their short lives, more than any child should ever have to deal with. The changes really took a toll on our household. Nothing is the same as it was, and sometimes…well, sometimes I wish we could just go back to when everything was simpler. But I wouldn’t change my life now for the world.

This little girl has been through hell and I am so grateful that she came through it with the beautiful spirit that she has. She still has a lot of growing and healing to do. She is very protective of her things, because these are the first “things” she’s had. She has a hard time eating the healthy foods, because the first couple years of her life, she hardly had food, let alone healthy food.

I look at my son, with whom I have an obvious bond, and I’m grateful for that. But I am also incredibly sad that I didn’t get to have those years with my daughter. I look at the two of them together and know that things the we take for granted, the things Cooper has had all his life, the Christmases and the birthday parties, vacations and other traditions, and I know that Riley hasn’t had those things. And it breaks my heart.

It’s been nine months, and I can finally say that we have gotten into a bit of a groove. We have a family routine down, the kids argue like the siblings that they are, and they love each other the same.

And I couldn’t love them more. What an incredible blessing this journey has been.

Riley on the day of her first visit to our home (Feb. 2011)

And Riley today (Nov. 2011)

Thank you for taking the time to read my story. National Adoption month isn’t just about finding adoptive parents. It’s about creating awareness for the issues that adoptees and adoptive parents alike deal with, and celebrating the families that are created through adoption. 

I try to speak as openly and honestly as possible about my adoption experiences, without sharing too much of my children’s stories. If you have any questions, please feel free to comment or contact me by email.

On another note, did you notice we had some family photos taken? I’ll be sharing those, as well as our family Christmas card later this week!

Kristin

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Owner at Yellow Bliss Road
Hi! I'm Kristin and I'm the creative mind behind Yellow Bliss Road, where you'll find tons of recipes, free printables, and a little decor and DIY thrown in for good measure. Life can be complicated, so I am all about simplifying wherever I can - from food to decor to DIY - because I believe that it doesn't have to be elaborate or extravagant to be amazing. I am a single adoptive mom with a daughter in Preschool and a son in Kindergarten. My kids are a handful, I'm exhausted and most days my house is a mess - and I'm okay with that!
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Comments

  1. Amira says

    Kristin, your children are absolutely beautiful! That hair! Those eyes! I would be wrapped around their little fingers :-) Thanks for sharing such a great story!

  2. Sue says

    You know Kristin, you are the one that is totally amazing. Not everyone in your situation would be as open and loving as you are. Everything happens for a reason. I truly believe this! Little Riley was meant to be with you and Cooper!! They are such beautiful kids both inside and out. I know, I’ve had the chance to meet them. And you Kristin, are pne of the most amazing and loving people I know!!

    Take care, Sue

  3. mcasper10 says

    I was adopted and my best friend went through fertility treatments and a tubal pregnancy before they decided to adopt. They now have two children, one amazing girl that came all the way from Russia and then a little boy who’s mom knew my friend and decided she would pick her to adopt. It’s been a hell of a journey, but they are two amazing kids and she is one amazing mom. I feel even closer to her children because they share being adopted with me. My mom always said anyone can have a baby, but she got to choose and I was special because they chose me. Your children are darling and I’m so happy for your family!

  4. themomescape says

    What an incredible and amazing journey. I am both an adoptive parent and also an adoptee. I have 2 beautiful young adoptees. JM who is now 9 months old came to us also last Feb 2011. Unlike you though, both of my children are from different parents. My daughter still have a hard time adjusting esp since most of the attention now goes to the baby, but I know she loves him dearly. Just like any sister would to her baby brother. You are sooo inspiring. :)

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